I think it's so unfortunate when people enter into a relationship (or even a friendship) and start to change who they truly are in order to please the other person or to make the relationship work.
Losing yourself in a relationship or another person isn't something that happens overnight.
When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.
But how are you supposed to know which one is the right one?
Which is better: asking for permission or asking for forgiveness? What would you do if you inherited 1 million dollars tomorrow? What’s the most embarrassing moment of your life so far? Where would you rather live – a big house in the suburbs or a tiny apartment in a great location in the city? If you could have any job in the world, what would it be? Ever have any trouble with the law or get arrested? What do you want to have going on in your life in 5 years, or 10, or 15? Which would you rather be, smart or happy, and why?
Whether you’re new to speed dating or speed dating enthusiast, there’s one thing everyone knows: you have very little time to meet a potential suitor. You can find out a lot about a man with this simple question. With this question you’ll find out a little bit about his past, and find out whether he’s a serious relationship kind of guy or a player.3. If you’re not into the idea of kids, then this will be a deal breaker for you. With this question you’ll find out if he’s laid back or loves to be busy and energetic.18. Your friends know you best, so this is obviously a great question to find out what kinda guy he is.19. Really just a fun question to get to know the guy.20. Everyone has one- see how wild, or subtle, his dream career is.21. After all, who wants to be with someone who is always hum and drum?
So how can you really get to know someone in such a short amount of time? Check out these 40 speed dating questions to ask a guy and you’ll have no problem figuring out if he’s a hit or miss in a matter of minutes.1. Was he the victim of a cheating girlfriend, or was he a controlling hothead the woman could no longer stand? On the other hand, this could reveal he’s a family man depending on his answer.4. If he doesn’t have any kids, it’s important to find out whether or not he’s up for the challenge. Does he wants to relax on the sandy shores of Jamaica, or speed down the highest mountains of Denver? Is there anything in particular you’re passionate about? Just like the movies question, knowing his favorite music can tell you whether he’s laid back or prefers a more energetic style.26. This is important- you need to know whether he’s shallow and only dates women for their looks, or if he has something important in mind when seeking a gal- perhaps an engaging personality or a college degree.27. A man who loves to pick up a good book and just relax is a major turn on for some women, and you can surely tell a lot about a man’s personality with this simple question.28. This is always a fun question, and the answer may really shock you- or leave you rolling on the floor with laughter.
How are you supposed to lasso that magical unicorn before it flies away?
With Valentines Day coming upon us, I’ve updated this earlier post to make it fifteen needed questions you need to ask you and your dating relationship.