These muscles work with nerves that carry signals to them and the bladder to control urination.Christopher Miller* is a real estate agent who is married and has two sons. Miller struggled for almost two years to overcome persistent urinary incontinence. We’d been married 32 years at that point, and I worried about what impact this would have on her.He really believed that there was less than a 1% chance that I’d have an incontinence issue, and a 30% chance of impotence. I mean, here were all the big guns in town, and his numbers seemed like the best. And the feedback was, “He’s got great hands.” We knew that his bedside manner left a lot to be desired, but I thought, “Who needs bedside manner?Even though Valentine’s Day has passed, I thought I would address an issue a very dear patient of mine recently raised; how do you date and meet someone new when you have incontinence?She has gained a lot of confidence over this past year, but is still nervous about meeting someone new.Her concern is how to explain her medical condition to someone new.
After further time, and appts she was referred to a totally unsympathetic consultant, who said other than phsyio there is nothing that can be done.He then said the only option was surgery where some kind of mesh was fitted; but said \"because of her age it wasn't an option as she may want children in the future\" (She wan;t asked anyway).She is due to go travelling/studying abroad, and so far the physio appt hasn't materialised. Tena lady helps odour and ruining underwear, but she isn't even 20!!Her concerns and worries are definitely legitimate.I mean, how do you explain it to someone you are just getting to know?So then it was a question of who was going to perform the surgery. If you were in your 70s, it might be a different story.” They all explained that I might develop impotence or incontinence afterward.